Listen, I may be a sexologist, but that doesn’t mean that I’ve never had awkward sex. If anything, I’ve had more than my fair share of bedroom bloopers. Everyone has experienced some kind of awkward moments during intimacy and let me tell you— it is completely normal.
When you first start becoming intimate with someone, there is going to be some awkwardness. Their body is new to you, and you’re trying to figure out what it likes and dislikes. Sure you may know the basics, but no two people are alike. The discovery process can lend itself to some pretty memorable incidences. Fortunately, after a while, you’ll be able to better know what pleases your partner. Making mistakes or mishaps are all part of the process.
Sex can get real strange real fast. What is often seen as effortless on screen can come to a screeching halt when someone takes a foot to the head while switching positions. It’s important to note that the intimate scenes portrayed in media are great acting and made for entertainment. To think that what you see on screen will translate seamlessly into your own bedroom life is an illusion.
There will be missteps, weird sounds, poorly timed bodily functions and a whole host of other things that are less than ideal and that’s OK. When you and your partner can laugh at these happenings, you have surpassed the basic relationship level as you revel in the funny moments of your journey together.
Vulnerability can be scary, but it can also be a vehicle to increase intimacy and trust in your relationship. Healthy couples should be able to take it on the chin, ahem, with silly moments and feel safe enough to laugh about any sort of bedroom mishap. Bottom line, if you haven’t laughed during sex, you might be doing it wrong.
Dr. Megan Stubbs is a Sexologist, the job you never saw on career day. For insightful tips or a good laugh, find her on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and SexologistMegan.com